Expression and Confrontation
I’ve been thinking we as humans want to live our lives in joy and happiness, want to spend good time with people around us. But we avoid the things which do make us happy, we delay it, we don’t have the guts to say necessary things out loud and then we cry about our sadness. Conflict avoided is conflict multiplied, if we don’t express and confront, which I agree are hard to do but gets even harder with avoidance.
If you were to name a person to whom you could tell everything, you won’t be able to name even yourself because in life most of the justifications and lies we tell is to ourselves. How can you expect a person to be expressive authentically if they themselves are not honest with themselves. It’s the great tragedy of life that people don’t understand this simple fact that the more honest you are to yourself the more you’ll be to the people around you. Expression is not just talking about random things, I’ve seen from my personal experience that people would be friends for many years and all they talk about is random things and just joke around and one day the friendship falls, and no one knows why. If you lay bricks of friendship, serious and honest conversations is the cement which binds it together. This is very simple but hard to understand for people because most of us want to live in a comfortable world where we don’t want to put efforts into things but still want them to sustain.
Confrontation is one the most feared things people have. They don’t like it; they avoid it and they don’t like to hear it as well. It’s like avoiding something thinking that it would keep things at par, but we don’t even realize when things become too difficult just because we’ve been hiding things under the rug for so long. The very reasons due to which people avoid confrontation are the ones which gets multiplied through its avoidance. Relationships, and quality relationships do determine what is the quality of our life and quality of our relationships is determined by serious talks and ability to confront and take confrontation.