Everyone wants depth in their conversations. It is what we crave for, the talks where we go deep in our heart and share things we would rather keep to ourselves. Where the vulnerable side is exposed and we get to talk about our fears and insecurities. But, often people tend to run away in the masks of sarcasm to be sort of cool or to avoid being uncomfortable or awkward. This tend to be a problem of modern age as we are gradually shifting towards mixing the idea of social interaction and social media interactions. This creates a gap as we are fooled that we’ve had interactions whereas we just have typed some messages. It can not replace a physical interaction.
Secondly it’s in habit of the people to be in groups. That is more than two people. What happens in groups is generally it is very difficult to come to similar state of mind at the same time, so the conversation is generally in bits and pieces. Always avoid groups if you want to have a serious discussion, and avoid at all costs if it is something personal. You reach a different level of depth when there are less people involved. Think of the time when we meditate, it’s just us and that is why we can go to depths.
To grow in life self reflection and reflection is must. That’s where other people can give us insights and perspectives which we hardly think of because everyone is different. That’s where depth of a conversation really makes it impactful. When you get rid of all the masks with another individual, that’s where the real connection begins.