Life is not one-dimensional.

Ever pondered upon the priorities in life. What should come first, what shouldn’t be the priority and what are things that needs to be sacrificed in order to achieve the main goal. While we’re at this constant struggle we miss one basic point, life is never lived in one dimension alone, it is an culmination of various dimensions that come together. For this very reason no area of life can be looked at in isolation.

One the very common themes that people struggle with is career vs romantic relationship as if one affects the other, or if you have one you would sacrifice the other. Often people forget to ask or even think of this simple question, has there been any point in their lives where only one thing is their focus, I mean you’ve family, friends, your health, assignments, job and what not. The stuff that’s hard to realize is how much of the bullshit around career vs love is imaginary and is a defense mechanism for underlying insecurities.

What I am getting at here is pretty simple, if you have a romantic relationship which is healthy, you’re never ever going to ask yourself whether you should focus primarily on career. The areas of your life that gives you joy are the ones you’ve invested a lot of time on, and these areas are meant to exist simultaneously. I think that is called life.

At the end, you just need a little self-awareness to realize that it’s not career you should primarily focus on, or your love life but, it’s a little investment in all these areas that counts. If your main goal is hindered by some investment of time in other areas, fine go ahead and be focused. But, don’t run out of fuel trying to fool yourself into thinking that after you do this, then you’ll do that because you might end up doing nothing.