Please, Sorry and Thank You
Why would you help someone? No, I’m not asking for a selfish reason nor I’m asking for an ethical obligation. What’s in your heart that lets you say with all the care and love, Please let me help you. What in the world could possibly drive someone to selflessly, without any expectations, HELP. It’s human, right? We all want to help others, it’s something inherited deep within us. Many times we come across people we would want to help, but there will be hesitation, I know it’s unintentional but it exists. To have that little bit of dilemma of pushing the other person to ask for help. We all have scars, cracks within us we don’t want to share but often we don’t realize that these cracks are the way through which light enter within us. We just have to see that in others as well, be compassionate, for everyone is going through something. All you have to do is ask to help and ask for help. I always want to do a bit extra by making efforts, of trying more to resolve an issue in my loved one’s life. But, I sometimes do get lost in wanting to help and not letting that person feel uncomfortable or feel low. Recently one of my friends made me realize that we have to be helpful irrespective of the short term consequences and look for what’s best for that individual. Always just ask for once, Please let me help, if you’re in a position to do so.
Conflict delayed is conflict multiplied. One of the most underlying reasons for the distances in our relationships is the delaying of difficult conversations, forgiving and holding truths which over time get multiplied and hit you hard when confronted. It’s easy and hard at the same time, right? The idea of speaking the truth, asking for forgiveness, confessing, but we all delay that to preserve the bond we share in the present. But, speaking from experience, these things make bonds stronger over time or make an individual stronger, either is better than keeping things under the rug. It’s better to be in a relationship where you see it going forward in the future rather than sticking in because of nostalgic history which doesn't promote growth. Say sorry whenever it’s necessary, it’s not a cliché. Sometimes all an individual needs is an assurance that they are valued enough to be asked for forgiveness.
Now the third thing which almost tops my list of doing something daily is appreciation. I often appreciate people for who they are as an individual and what uniqueness they bring to this world and in my life. I love to write letters, say thank you for little things and be kind enough to appreciate if someone did something very nice for me. We often neglect the beauty of our heartful compliments and what impact they could make in someone’s life. Maybe someone can be motivated to keep on doing amazing things for others or feel a sense of belonging. We often ignore or refrain from making these little efforts because we are afraid that they might become cliché. But if you ask yourself, if someone did nice things for you very frequently would you be bored of that or appreciate that someone values you so much. If in your case the answer is the former try to do things that make your close ones happy so that you can appreciate other’s efforts. In the end, all that matters is to love and be loved, to appreciate and be appreciated. Say THANK YOU, more frequently than you do.
